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I am going to talk to you about body image today. Specifically, your body image. It does not matter what others think. No, really. It doesn’t.
If you think you are never going to be thin, then you will act that way. If you think you are going to be thin, you will act that way. You make that final decision to walk an extra five minutes, take the stairs instead of the steps, control your diet…
Getting your mind set to change is the first step of many. You know why you are where you are at and that is what matters. When the time comes that you are ready for change you will know where you are at and you wont have to do much searching as to why you are there. Just start planning your changes.
There are a lot of little steps mixed in that first step.
I collect my weight mostly in my abdomen. More weight = bigger, rounder abdomen(stretched from pregnancy, so it goes into a nice round shape).
When I was heavier people would ask me if I was pregnant. When I was self conscious and felt embarrassed about being overweight I would just answer no and move along (feeling embarrassed, didn’t want to look at anyone in the face just wanted to get out of that room as soon as possible).
Change your body image, change your attitude.
Once my body image changed so did my attitude. While I was still fat but working on changing my body image (how I perceived myself and all my beautiful extra-ness), I would be asked “Are you pregnant?”. My answer: “Nope, just fat.”(and I knew why, but I was not going into that, I would just smile and keep going).
People are naturally curious creatures.
I could then see that the person that asked was then more embarrassed than myself and just trying to strike up a friendly conversation. They were naturally curious. I was naturally honest, polite, and picked a different topic for them.
Remove the stigma of words.
A lot rests in how you take the message being presented to you, you can either defuse the situation or escalate it. Thinking back now, maybe I should have used the word ‘overweight’ which is more socially acceptable. I accept fat, overweight, obese (where I technically started). Obesity is defined as having more than 30 percent body fat (find any bmi calculator – and plug in your numbers. The simplest one I use is found on the nhlbi.nih.gov website BMI Caclulator. (I’m going to try to make one myself, I’ve been told to find the code but I kinda want to make it from scratch just to say I did that – suggestions?)
You have to have a clear understanding of where you are right now, to see where you have to go.
You have to take a good strong look at where you are at and just be accepting to move on to the next step towards your long term goal/s. You have to be real with yourself, matter of fact ‘so to speak’, remove the emotion for just one second so you can see clearly without beating yourself up (which is what tends to happen when we still have the stigma attached to the word). Make it more technical. Use the word to help to point you in the direction that you have to go. Use the calculator. Play around with it by inserting a lower weight and see where you end up at the higher and the lower percentages. What you envision is all possible when you know where you are starting from.
You make the final decision!
You are the one that makes the final decisions that take you in the direction you set!
Happy 4th of July weekend everyone!
To everyone out there this weekend, Have a happy and safe 4th of July, stop worrying about what others think of your body. Remember to use kind words about yourself when you do talk about your body. What matters most is what you think!
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So true, words are very powerful. Please watch what you say and how you say it. With that said it is how you interpret the message as well. I use to be asked if I was pregnant when I was heavier and when I was self conscious about it, I would just say no, but feel bad inside about it to myself and embarrassed.
When I finally started accepting my body image and holding close to me positive and encouraging people, everything changed.
The response to “are you pregnant?” Soon became… Nope, just fat (smile and continue what I was doing). Sometimes the other person is just naturally curious (some would be so embarrassed asking that question).
We are naturally curious as human beings. You can’t fault us for that.
So, for my own sake of mind I interpret it as a person just being curious. If they are being mean I keep going… elsewhere.
One of the best things to remember to reach your goal is to keep moving. One of the second best things is to be realistic about where you are and the moves you are making.
This brings me to one of my favorite quotes by William Arthur Ward “The pessimist complains about the wind; the optimist expects it to change; the realist adjusts the sails.”
I lived my life as a pessimist for a number of years after realizing that just being optimistic about things didn’t change anything. Pessimism didn’t get me anywhere either, except maybe more grey hairs, higher blood pressure… After learning to look at things differently I became a realist and adjusted my sails. That is when things started to change for me.
A lot of people think that losing weight or reaching your goal/s is a mechanical process, and for the most part it is. Remember what I said above to reach your goal you have to keep moving. It is the other part that we ignore that gets us into trouble. We need to get our mind set for what is to come.
How do you get your mind set? Easy, you figure out where you are now and where you want to go. It is the how to get there and what to do along the way that is sometimes the difficult part for some (most, including myself when I first started). That’s when discussing our thoughts with other people helps us keep it real. Sometimes in talking to people we or they help us to see where we are not keeping it real. Where we need to adjust that sail.
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